Women of Resurrection


Given how Lent went, I’m thankful that we are reminded that resurrection comes. After the darkness and disappointment of losing Christ, resurrection is the beginning of all things being made new.

Recently I’ve been doing a lot of reading about the state of women and girls in the world, and have been having lots of conversations about the hook-up culture that singles find themselves in. The combination of all of that is not necessarily encouraging.

So, I’d like to share with you a list of things that I think would be different if women lived in a world of resurrection; a world of creation being made new.



Church

  • Full women’s equality in all of Christianity. Women preachers would be a regular occurrence. Women priests would lead the Eucharist and absolve sins. Little girls around the world would know that they are co-heirs in Christ because they would see it in front of them at church. The vitriol spewed against women would end. Women and men would lead the church together.

Not only would this happen in Christianity, but in religions around the world. No longer would women be oppressed by patriarchal and abusive religious systems but they would be allowed and encouraged to flourish in their system of faith.

  • That individual churches and denominations would critically examine how they live out equality. There are many churches and denominations that claim gender equality, but often, without thinking about it, fall into the traps of unconscious bias, popular theology, and treating equality as a insignificant subject. Equality is always a significant subject because so much of the input we see and hear in our lives imposes inequality. Churches in particular should work hard at striving to live out what they preach.

  • The end of purity culture. Purity culture is extremely damaging to men and women. (An example.) It places all of someone’s value on one act and that’s not Biblical. Our value comes from the fact that we are all created in God’s image. I think we do need to address sexual ethics and morality, but forbidding it and shaming people into obedience, especially when that is so unequally doled out between women and men, is not the way forward. We have to find new ways to address these issues that are healthy for women, men, and our future families.

Harassment, Abuse, Assault, and Rape

  • Women can safely go anywhere without the threat of harm. That may seem a little rosy for an outlook, but we’re talking resurrection. Women need to be able to go about life without being catcalled, harassed, threatened, sent pornography, asked for nudes, or expected to commit sexual acts. Women are experiencing this in record numbers, especially girls in high school and college. Safe spaces are hard to find.

  • The end of rape, abuse, assault, harassment, and FGM. That women could live in a world where their bodies were not in danger. That rape and assault would not be experienced by 1 in 5 women. That no one would ever suffer from FGM (female genital mutilation). That women could feel safe.

  • An end to sex trafficking. No longer would women and men be trapped in the dark world of sex trafficking. Forced into having their bodies used for the pleasure of others. Often walled off from normal society and kept in deplorable conditions. Ending slavery is part of resurrection.

Bodies

  • Women are no longer judged by what they look like. With the constant emphasis on beauty, thinness, and perfection, women are constantly under pressure to change who they are. Girls as young as 10 are posting sexy pictures on social media to get more likes and find their value. This pressure, often fueled by the growing use of pornography, means girls become women before they have even finished playing with dolls.

  • Women could just live in their bodies the way they want to. Women would have complete control over their own bodies. No more catcalls and objectification, no more pressure to move this fat around or fix that wrinkle, no more strange laws that apply only to women, no more measuring and sizing up.

  • A world where hooking up doesn’t define relationships. Hook-up culture hurts women and men. With no requirements for relationships before physical connection, sexual intimacy becomes transactional in nature. From 6th grade on, girls and boys are living out what they see on tv, on social media, and in pornography. It is making insecurity, name calling, labeling, and shaming, the primary currency in relationships. We need to get back to a place where true connection is foundational in relationship.

  • Where women have access to their basic needs. Food, clean water, shelter, hygiene supplies, and bathrooms. In many places around the world women lack access to the most basic of supplies and safe places to take care of their bodily functions. All people should have access to the basic needs of life.

Choices

  • Women could choose what to do with their lives no matter what other people think. To work or not to work. To have kids or not to have kids. To have long or short hair. To wear skirts or pants. None of these things would mean anything other than letting women live the way they want.

  • That the role of unconscious bias in how women are treated would end. That as people learn about bias and the role it plays in how they treat women, minorities, and people that are different from themselves, that equality would become more and more achievable. It’s complicated and takes work, but it’s worth it for creating a more equal society and world. Here’s a video that demonstrates how unconscious bias works.

Work

  • Women would be treated as equal at work. They would be given the full spectrum of jobs and titles. They would have equal pay for equal work. They would have all the responsibilities and privileges of other people in equal positions.

  • There wouldn’t be a “potential pregnancy penalty.” This is when women are denied opportunities, positions, and projects simply because they are of childbearing age.

  • Equal work, equal pay, equal confidence.  That we would live in a world where women are paid the same as men for the same work. And that their pay wouldn’t go down because jobs traditionally filled by men are now filled by women.

  • That women are treated well at work and treat others well at work. In some fields there is a basic level of discrimination and harassment that women are expected to put up with. It may not be said out loud, but in practice women know that they will be treated this way without recourse. That shouldn’t be true for anyone, male or female.

Home

  • Women could expect help at home. In fact, it would be so normal that they wouldn’t even have to ask. Typically women have an extra part-time job simply taking care of the home. In a resurrected world, we would all be stewards and work together to take care of where we live.

  • That both moms and dads can stay home if they choose. One of my good friends is a pastor who has chosen to be a stay at home parent while his wife pursues training as a doctor. He does an amazing job and is a great role model for equality in the home. New creation means that moms and dads can stay at home in the way that best suits their family without question.

  • Paid maternity and paternity leave as a mandatory practice. Around the world many moms and dads have the options to spend significant time at home with their newborn or newly adopted children. Not in the US. In the US parents can take 12 weeks off with guarantee of returning to their job (let’s be honest - many women are pushed out after this time), and there is no mandatory compensation required.

Education

  • That girls and women would have equal access to education. And that they would have the support they need to complete that education including feminine hygiene products, safe travel to and from school, someone to care for siblings, a basic standard of living, uniforms, books, and supplies.

  • That women and girls would be treated equally in the classroom. Girls in the classroom are often chosen to speak less. They are often discouraged from pursuing science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM). “In college, women earn only 12 percent of computer science degrees.” There aren’t enough women entering technology jobs to fill the need in companies that want women to join. Just a little extra encouragement can make a huge difference for women in science and math programs (and ministry, too).

  • That women would be treated equally in academia. Being a woman academic is hard. Bias and discrimination can seem ever present. Women are penalized not only for their gender but also for having children, where men don’t face the same penalties. “Men with young children are 35 percent more likely than women with young children to secure tenure-track positions after completing their Ph.D.s. Fathers also outstrip mothers in securing tenure by about 20 percent.” We see this especially clearly in the theological realm, where women are the blatant minority in schools teaching theology.

Images

  • Equal representation in print and on film. That women would be represented numerically and in positive ways in the news media and in entertainment. That they would be healthy, be leaders, be scientists. It shouldn’t be abnormal to see a woman leading in any capacity. It shouldn’t be abnormal for women to carry the narrative in a television show or movie. There shouldn’t be only a handful of women in a room of politicians. To change the way our culture functions, women need to be represented doing the things women do every day.

  • The end of objectification of women. The highly sexualized culture we live in, as exacerbated by the way women are seen in media and in pornography, is having some pretty negative outcomes. While people may disagree on the solution, the fact is that we need to be addressing the problem instead of trying to bury it. When women are seen as objects and not people, as modified graphics instead of humans, all of us suffer. Women and men need to be free from objectifying each other.

There are still many more things that could be included on this list. For women to experience the new creation brought through resurrection we all have to work toward equality. Thankfully, we know the one that has the power to transform the world. And he started spreading the message of new creation through the women that met him at the tomb on Easter morning.

 

Resources

To learn more specifically about how women’s equality matters in the church check out any of these organizations and people.

If you want to dive deep, consider reading American Girls.

 

The Donald on Women

No matter where you stand in the coming election, it's important to think about what your leading candidate thinks about women. We've talked about this before. And today, a video came out of women reading quotes that Donald Trump has made about women. 

To state it plainly, this is a painful and degrading statement about what Donald thinks about women. He judges women by looks alone. He makes fun of women's periods. He says women should be treated like sh*t. And the negativity goes on and on.

These statements are not a joke. They are not some offhand remark. They reflect a view that oppresses and harms women. 

Is this how we want the President of the United States to talk about women? Is this the picture we want to present to world?

The Bible makes it very clear that women are created as the imago dei, the image of God. We are a reflection of the Godhead, and rulers over all creation. In the Biblical narrative, women are warriors, the bearers of Good News, supporters of Christ, the mother of God, bringers of blessing, preachers, and missionaries. Women serve all of humanity and spread the Good News.

Women have been in the story from the very beginning and continue to be a significant way in which God works out his salvation in the world. To be seen as bodies only, to be seen as worthless and meaningless - these things are contrary to who God has created us to be.

So as we continue the primary race and as we continue towards the presidential election, remember women. How are they talked about? How are they treated? And would this candidate treat your daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, aunt, or friend?

International Women's Day #OneDayIWill #PledgeforParity

March 8 is International Women's Day. Here are some links to check out!

Google Doodle and International Women's Day Wishes!
Happy International Women's Day! #OneDayIWill #GoogleDoodle
https://g.co/doodle/ucbv2q

International Women's Day Site  #pledgeforparity
Get involved with one of these things:
--- help women and girls achieve their ambitions
--- challenge conscious and unconscious bias
--- call for gender-balanced leadership
--- value women and men's contributions equally
--- create inclusive, flexible cultures

IWD Pictures
Pictures from around the world showing how women and men are celebrating International Women's Day.

Christian Women Throughout History
A review of women throughout church history and the success and challenges they have faced in serving the church.

Christian Today
A reflection on the #pledgeforparity of International Women's Day and why it is the Christian thing to do.

 

The Call for Egalitarian Futures

Sarah Bessey posted today about the response she got for a call to egalitarian marriage resources and information. She has received 1000+ requests for more information, offers of help to make it happen, calls for an egalitarian marriage conference, calls for material. You can read her post here.

And in Sarah's very beautiful style, she immediately points to others. After her initial post, people started sharing links and resources that are already available. 

The thing is that the more we looked into it, the more we realised that all of the stuff is already there. The leaders are here. The teaching is here. The gatherings are here. The workshops are here. The video curriculum is all here. There are books! 

So keep an eye on Sarah and the work that she is doing. 

When we speak out against the complementarianism and patriarchy that surrounds us as women in the church, we can bring about the new creation that comes when women (and men) are free to be everything God created us to be. Free to use all of our talents, abilities, experience, and dedication to serve God and others holistically. 

Do you have links to resources that will fit into this call for equality? Please submit them on the contact page. The more places people can find them, the sooner we can start to change not only the conversation, but the lives of Christian women and men.

Women Sticking Together

When I first started studying women and the church, it became very clear that this is never a one way topic. It seems throughout history that every time women take two steps forward toward equality and fair treatment, they get pushed back at least one step, and sometimes if feels like two or three. As of the present, gender equality is not something that is achieved and then remains intact, but is something that we must continually work to keep at the front of our consciousness. While some people believe equality has already been addressed by our culture, others still propagate the idea that it’s the very thing that will send us all to hell.

The reality is that we live in a world where women face all kinds of abuse and discrimination. When I talk to women across different walks of life and when I read their stories, it is evident that women are still treated as second class citizens. It is an issue that affects all women across all kinds of distinctions. None are immune.

This is something that permeates not only the culture but much of the religious world too. For all the concerns about Islam and gender, Christians are very divided on this topic as well. While many people are huge fans of Pope Francis, it seems he will not budge on the possibility of allowing women to be priests. Recently in Australia, theLutheran Church in Australia denied women the right to ordination. While the majority of lay votes supported it, the clergy were against. It failed by 13 votes. And here, the division between churches that support equality and churches that believe women belong in subordinate roles, continues to rage. Just last week, Jory Micah, a Christian Feminist blogger was attacked online after responding to a complementarian post that called Christian feminists all kinds of names. Jory was respectful and logical, and did a great job laying out the case for real, practical Christian feminism. In response she was mocked and bullied. And this all happened inside the Christian tent.

Women are facing discrimination on all sides, both inside and outside of the church. Whether at a university, at work, or online, we see these behaviors everywhere. As a culture, we have made huge strides forward in women’s rights. However the statistics call for ongoing advocacy.

One in four women will be assaulted or raped on their college campus. We are flooded with sexualized images of women every single day. Women still don’t have universal paid time off for childbirth. One in four women will be abused by an intimate partner. (Think about 4 women in your life…) Pregnant women fear not being hired if they are in the interview process while showing a bump. Women are regularly paid less than men for the same work, including stars like Jennifer Lawrence. Women that refuse to stay out late for drinks with management because of family commitments (or safety concerns) lose out on raises, promotions, and other benefits at work. Discrimination is very real.

Women face discrimination in boardrooms and computer rooms, in organizations large and small. Companies like Amazon pressure women into ignoring what’s best for their families and themselves for fear of losing their jobs. For example, “The mother of the stillborn child soon left Amazon. “I had just experienced the most devastating event in my life,” the woman recalled via email, only to be told her performance would be monitored “to make sure my focus stayed on my job.” (Aug. 15, 2015, NYT) This is just one of many stories in the New York Times article that shows a toxic work environment that is particularly discriminatory against women.

I was recently talking with a software engineer who noted that even when she knew she was being harassed at work, she had to decide when to report it to HR. She felt that there was no way to report every offense because some of the men she worked with “just seem to have Tourette’s about that stuff. It just comes out, and there’s no point in getting upset about it.” Another lady said that she didn’t even know this was something to be concerned about; she just thought she was one of the guys. She is now learning about advocating for women’s rights in the workplace.

The same situation happens in the church. While the mainline denominations have made substantial progress on the road to gender equality, it has not been fully realized. Other smaller groups struggle to live out the realities of equality even when it is part of their statement of faith and practice. And many women in these systems don’t realize the discrimination is going on.

In churches across America, women are called to ministry, are trained at a seminary level, and then are left to fend for themselves. I know many highly trained, brilliant women in ministry who have seen nothing but struggle in their pursuit of a life in full time Christian service. While mainline denominations are making significant strides in equality, even there, being paid for your work is no guarantee. Out dated rules around being in a car with someone or having a meal with with someone leave many men in leadership tentative to engage in real working relationships with women that have committed their lives to the call as much as they have.

Even in places where women are “accepted” in ministry, there isn’t always solidarity between women. An article I saw this week highlights the blindness that sometimes happens between women. Women that do have an easy experience sometimes feel that women who struggle must have a “problem.” It’s unnamed and unexplored. And, let’s be honest, advocating for each other takes time away from a very full ministry plate. But without these kinds of awarenesses, women are divided even in camps that allow them to fulfill their call.

For other portions of the church, as seen above, men (and some women) strive to weaken the equality of women through outmoded theologies of power and control. They defend this even to the point of tearing down other women, in order to make sure that no one gets out of line. This creates a culture of oppression that influences everything they touch. The insistence of seeing women as less-than means that other forces promoting oppression find staunch allies within the body of Christ.

These things make me sad. No woman, no matter what job or industry, no matter which church or religion, should ever feel that discrimination, abuse, and harassment are okay. Being recognized and treated as a human being is a fundamental right.

The freedom found in Christ and in creation means that women are seen as full humans. Made completely in the image of God. As a reflection of God. As half of all of humanity. As equals in all ways. The redemption of Christ works to redeem all of creation, and that includes women as full and equal participants in life, creation, culture, and the church.

To achieve this, women need to stick together. We need to recognize where we are divided and find ways to be united. Whether this means crossing the boundaries between business and church, racial divisions, religion, socioeconomic status, citizenship, or any other barrier. Reaching across those lines and finding solidarity with each other helps women stand strong and move more fully into the future.

We also need to stand in solidarity with women working on the front lines of feminist issues. Emma Watson is calling women and men around the world to stand up for women and make the world a more equal place. Her work with the UN, her work on the heforshe campaign, and her willingness to risk her career to speak out, makes her someone I would like to stand arm in arm with in the fight for equality.

Lauren Mayberry, a member of Chvrches, has received attention for standing up against the sexism that is rampant in the music industry. She is continually harassed at concerts and online and is speaking out against what is considered standard behavior by many fans. Reading her accounts is disturbing. Fans threaten her with physical violence and rape as a way to “compliment” her talent. Why do we live in a society where it is acceptable to treat another human being this way? It should never be okay.

I recognize that this article only begins to address the issues around women’s equality. There are whole groups of women that are included in this but also experience many other forms of harmful treatment. Women of color, poor women, abused women, women in oppressive countries, women caught up in sex trafficking, LGBTQIA women, women in oppressive religions, and women under ISIS all carry the heavy burden of ongoing gender discrimination.

Standing up for women and working toward full equality is an ongoing fight. We need to do this together. We need to drawn in those on the fringes and educate them about the issues. We need to identify ourselves so that the labels of feminist or womanist are not just words from a textbook or news story. We need to encourage men to come alongside our fight, whether we like that reality or not. And we need to do this together. Only when we are united, in all our differences and complexities, with all our stories and experiences, will we be able to change things.

When we stop being diligent about women’s equality, it fades into the background.

And that is where discrimination continues to thrive.

Related resources:
It Was Never a Dress: Working to change the way the world views women.
Everyday Sexism Project: Tracking incidences of sexism around the world.

 

Reposted from http://www.patheos.com/blogs/emergentvillage/2015/10/women-sticking-together/